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Handling Emotions and Feelings

We all have difficult times in our lives. Certainly being sexually abused can bring out strong feelings. You may feel scared, embarrassed, confused, anxious or angry, or any number of other emotions. In fact you may have all of those emotions at one time or another, or all at once. This can make you feel very overwhelmed.

You can think of it this way. A painful toothache tells you that you need to go to a dentist. A dentist can fix the problem and you feel better! Strong feelings are telling us something. They are telling us we need to solve a problem and figure out what can help us to feel better.

It can help to talk to someone we trust. It could be a helpful, trusted friend or family member. It could be a counselor or therapist. They can be objective and help you to get a better perspective. Perhaps you feel guilty. Perhaps you feel that you should have done something differently. Perhaps you don't want to face what will happen if people know.

Whatever feelings you have, telling a trusted person can help you get a calmer way of looking at your situation. It can also help to know that you are not alone! Anyone who has been abused would have many of the same feelings.

The most important thing to know is that it is not your fault! You are not the person who abused. It is their fault – not yours! Unfortunately, these things have happened to a lot of people. It is a tough problem, but you can handle it!